You may have noticed that everyone has an opinion. You may also have noticed that others’ opinions may not be the same as yours.

I overheard Jane talking to a friend whose feelings were hurt by a conflict of opinions. Jane shared something a business associate had told her.

Understand that about 10% of the people in your life will love you no matter what you say or do. Another 10% are going to hate you, or at least not like you, no matter what you do. The other 80% are not going to care about you very much one way or another, and are going to be too focused on their own lives to worry about what you’re up to.

Do you worry about what people think of you? Maybe it’s time to realize that it’s just not that important what other people think. If you like yourself and follow your own heart, that’s really all that matters. Trying to please everyone is not only impossible, it will make you crazy. Let it go!

I’ve decided to quit worrying about whether that new mare at the barn likes me or not. She will or she won’t. I can only be my authentic self and give her the opportunity to decide.

Are you your authentic self when you are around other people? I’ll bet you are. Remember, your horse can tell if you’re being “real” or not… and he or she cares about you no matter what. He’s in the “loves you” 10%.

Love, Moshi

From Indy:

Today was a great day! I had so much fun playing with my friends! We wrestled and chased each other until we were so tired we collapsed in the shade. It was a blast!

I just love it when I get to spend time with my friends. Sure, we argue on occasion, but that’s just part of being in a relationship. Sometimes we disagree. The nice thing is we have learned to agree to disagree. I don’t demand that my friends accept everything I believe, and they don’t demand that of me.

The world we think we know, we interpret through our own special filters. Those filters are unique to each one of us, based on our life experiences, as well as our DNA. My blue sky may look totally different than your blue sky. But that doesn’t mean we should argue about it. There are very few subjects that are worth fighting over. Minds are rarely changed, and getting someone to agree is usually just not that important.

I’ve heard it said that your friends and acquaintances may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel. I decided a long time ago that I am going to be one of those dogs who is very aware of how I make my friends feel. And I want them to feel good.

My friend Jane makes me feel good when she pets me and tells me how much she loves me. I tell her the same thing by licking her with great enthusiasm, and staying close by her side.

How does your dog tell you he or she loves you? He does, you know…

Love, Indy

Jane Savoie
1174 Hill St ext.
Berlin, VT 05602
Jane’s Website
DressageMentor.com