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Motivation from Moshi, by Jane Savoie

Patience. I hear it is a virtue. I think it’s a habit that can be developed.

Having patience with your horse is very important. He or she thinks differently than you do, so you have to be able to recognize when he tries to do what you’re asking, even if he didn’t quite get it. Rewarding the “try” is very important.

It’s also very important to recognize why you might be losing patience. Very often it’s because you’re afraid. Fear is very uncomfortable, so many people appear angry when they’re actually afraid. It’s a natural human coping mechanism. Recognizing this fact is very important, especially if you’re working with children and animals.

Do you have a temper? Are you sure it’s anger you’re feeling, and not fear or lack of control? If you suspect this might be true for you, or really don’t know why you get angry, it may be time to take a second look. Next time you feel your temper flare, stop and examine what’s going on. What caused this? What are you REALLY feeling? Could it be fear you’re covering up with a different emotion?

Horses aren’t easily fooled. We know when you’re afraid, even if it shows up as anger. Both scare us, because we want to feel safe with you. If you’re truly angry, then we’re afraid you might hurt us. If you’re afraid, then we can’t look to you as our safe and strong leader, and we get scared too. Either way, our relationship with you is strained.

Patience really is a valuable asset. It starts with honest self-evaluation. Are you ready for that? Do you have the courage to face your inner self?

Hey, your horse is waiting for you at the barn! He may be patient, but he’s watching for you. He’s afraid you might not come today, and he misses you! Get going!

Love, Moshi

From Indy:

I was frightened today. I got out of my yard and went exploring. I was crossing the street and a big truck almost ran me over! The driver honked his loud horn at me, and I ran as fast as I could, but I felt the wind from the passing truck on my tail. It scared me!

I went right home. Jane was scared too, wondering where I’d gone. Just being with her helped make me feel safe. She took me inside and gave me a good rub on my tummy. It felt good to know she was there for me.

When I hear noises at night, I’m the one who investigates. I help Jane and Rhett feel safe in their home because they know my sharp eyes and acute hearing will warn them if anything dangerous approaches. But Rhett and Jane make me feel safe when things happen that I don’t understand. We help each other in the best ways we’re able.

Do you have someone who can help you when you’re afraid? I’ll bet you do. It could be a parent, a friend, or a dog. If you don’t have someone, it might be a good time to cultivate a relationship where you can get help when you need it, and offer something to that person (or pet) that they need in exchange. Creating healthy, symbiotic relationships is a great way to improve and enhance your life.

I’m feeling much better now that I’m safe in my house with Jane. Jane feels relaxed too, with me right here by her side keeping my nose and ears alert. Who’s watching out for you? Shall I stop by and make sure you’re safe?

Love, Indy

Jane Savoie
1174 Hill St ext.
Berlin, VT 05602
Jane’s Website
DressageMentor.com

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